As a member of writer's groups and critique forums, you can get comments about your writing that go from one end of the spectrum to the other. The good, the bad, and all the ugly gray in between. This, unfortunately, leaves quite a bit of room for conflicting opinions.
Personally, I've received comments such as, "Your characters are alive and well-portrayed," and, "Your characters are too flat and unemotional", on the same story. I understand that not everyone will like every story, but how can you have such extremes on one piece? How do you know if one commenter is just saying they liked it because they don't want to be harsh, and maybe the other commenter was having a bad day and hated everything they read that particular day?
Here's another scenario: Someone says, "Your writing is excellent, the structure is correct, and the characters are vivid, but I just don't care for the story content. It's not something I would read and/or buy." On the one hand, that's a compliment. On the other hand, it's a real bummer.
So my question is...
For the writers out there: How do keep your sanity when you receive conflicting comments on your work? How do you decide what to change, based on feedback, and what not to?
For the readers out there: What's more important to you, style or content? When you read, what keeps you reading, the author's wording, or the story itself? A combination of both?